Tell Us About Yourself (Name, City, Occupation, Etc.)
Audrey Bellis, 31, Los Angeles, Founder: Worthy Women
What motivates you?
One of my biggest motivators is that we still have work to do, for women, for women of color, for the advancement of women entrepreneurs. I often ask myself: “Who am I to take this on?” but I also, think, If not me, who? No one else will advocate for me like I will, and if I can elevate/ impact my community with me along the way then that’s the way we create movements for the masses.
What do you love about your job?
I feel like I actually make a difference in the lives of others every day and that for me is LIVING. It’s a rare thing to be able to have a career that’s an extension of your personality and Worthy Women is that. It’s my journey to being Worthy Audrey and I’m incredibly humbled that so many others are a part of it on their own Worthy journey.
What does work/life balance mean to you, and how do you achieve it?
Work/life balance has always been a hard thing for me to manage. I tend to do everything in extremes and while that has helped me get to where I am today by scaling quickly; it also comes at the sacrifice of other things: sleep, personal/romantic relationships.
These days, I am very particular about creating conscious spaces for my personal development. I have a very strict morning routine. I wake up at 4am, meditate on my daily lesson from A Course in Miracles. I then stretch to an Elena Brower YogaGlo online class, daily mass from 7-7:30am and I’m in the office before 8am.
Not only does this help me start my routine in the mornings better so my day gets off on the right food, but it’s also made me a better leader. I’ve also recently started incorporated meal planning with Eat Naked LA and a new trainer 2x a week to really help me feel good physically. It’s hard work building a business and enhancing my physical stamina, isn’t just good for my waistline, it’s great for the brain.
What are your tips for our readers working in male-dominated industries?
Don’t think you need to act like a man to succeed like one. Succeed like a woman, succeed like YOU. Too often we mask our femininity with masculine energy forgetting that our femininity is one of our greatest gifts. I’m not talking about wearing skirts here, I’m talking about our energy, our ability to be compassionate, caring, bond, and nurture.
How do you deal with criticism?
Constructively (I hope). The truth is, criticism only bothers you if it’s a reflection of something you believe in yourself to be true that you don’t enjoy facing. I try to ask myself: “Is this valid?” and “Is this coming from someone who actually means something to me or whose opinion holds weight?” .
It’s easy to give criticism when you’re not the one who actually has to do the work that’s being criticised. Dealing with other’s opinions has helped me be more compassionate in my own.
What’s your ideal workwear uniform?
I’m pretty well known for my dress collections (smiles) but I love a good power suit.
What did you want to be when you “grew up”? How has that changed?
The running joke is that in kindergarten I came home and told my mom that I wanted to be the dictator of my own country but since I couldn’t have that yet, I’d start with my sandbox. (Laughs) . Since then I wanted to be a psychologist and that’s what my undergrad is in, it’s come full circle that I’m in a role where I work in the personal development space.
What do you do when you’re not working?
I’m actually quite an introvert. Because I’m around people all the time for events and work related items, I very much enjoy my alone time when I do have down time.
What is your mantra?
- You cannot raise your net worth, until you raise your self worth. -Audrey Bellis.
- This place where I meet myself, is the place where I meet you. -Elena Brower
What was the hardest event you had to overcome in your career to get you where you are now?
Letting go of thinking I needed to do everything myself or be the only one who could do it properly. The truth is, our scalability happened when I learned to start letting go and trusting other people to do their job (secret: they do it better than I do). My job is to drive the vision and execution/growth, I can’t be all things, to all people, all the time (and do it all too).
Have you ever failed? How? And what did you do to overcome?
Constantly. I fail at little things daily and sometimes in a big way. I’m made poor hiring choices and implemented bad marketing campaigns. I’ve handled situations poorly.
All I can ever do is strive to show up for each day with a little more grace than I did the day before and know that it’s “enough” to do the best I can, with what I have, each day.
How do you view hardships to make them manageable?
Trust in the process. Sometimes when I’m stuck, I have to remind myself that I’m not moving forward because there is still a lesson in where I’m at that I haven’t learned yet. Everything happens on its own time as it’s supposed to, my job to is to do my job, not manipulate outcomes for my ego driven goals.
Do you have any mentors? How did you meet them?
Absolutely. One of the strongest mentors in my life is someone that I met on Twitter. He has always believed in me and often saw potential in me that I didn’t always see in myself. In fact, I wouldn’t be doing Worthy Women today if it wasn’t for him.
Other mentors have been both professional and peer mentors. I think it’s important that even if you don’t have a formal “mentor/mentee/sponsor” relationship that we find ways to implement constant learning from people we admire through their content and content about them.
Are there any hard no-no’s, in your book, in terms of professional etiquette?
I’ll reframe this by saying something I learned from Kara Sax at the Sax Agency: “Always be a pleasure to work with.” No matter what the situation, how you choose to handle it is always your choice, choose to be pleasure, be level headed and reasonable.
What advice do you have for other women who are going places?
Do what moves you, and don’t give pain purpose. Too often I hear women tell me about the struggle and they become obsessed with how “hard” it is. Newsflash, sometimes it’s hard because it’s not working and you’re trying to force something that isn’t meant to be.
It should feel like you are of service to yourself and to the community at large.
1. Favorite place you’ve ever traveled? Bali
2. Mission-critical apps? Asana, DropBox
3. How do you recharge? Bubble bath with lavender essential oils.
4. Best new restaurant discovery? Mira (in Los Angeles), particularly their basement whiskey bar.
5. Go-to libation? Single malt scotch, well aged.
From top to bottom: Audrey is wearing the The Single Button Blazer ($295), the Stretch Trouser ($190) and the Cinched Coat ($325).
Special thanks to @marlena.elise for select photography.